Exploring Men's Retreats: A Journey Towards Emotional Health
Men seeking respite through retreats often escape societal roles and expectations for a week to ten days. In remote locations, they find anonymity, away from their identities as CEOs, freelancers, or family men. Elisa Errea, founder of The Human Studio and The Wine Studio, explains that these retreats provide “a safe place where there are no expectations, allowing men to lower their guards and explore their vulnerabilities.”
The Evolving Definition of Masculinity
The concept of traditional masculinity—often associated with stoicism and relentless busyness—is undergoing a transformation. Today, discussions focus on mental health, empathy, and self-care. While platforms like TikTok feature conflicting messages—including toxic hyper-masculinities embodied by influencers like Andrew Tate—there's a growing movement encouraging men to seek help and embrace their emotional side.
In major cities such as London and New York, barbershops are evolving into wellness spaces offering not just grooming services but also personal growth talks and organized retreats. According to the Global Wellness Institute, nearly 95% of men expressed interest in addressing their emotional well-being within the past year.
Wellness as a New Status Symbol
The Financial Times notes that wellness has become the latest status symbol among successful men. Meaningful conversations now revolve around detox retreats and innovative therapies rather than luxury cars or frequent flyer miles. Success has shifted from mere busyness to prioritizing time for personal reset, typically at least twice a year.
Retreats Tailored for Men
One such wellness platform, Evryman, launched in 2016, has redefined men's weekend activities with eight-day retreats set in Canada's Glacier National Park. Designed for those leading fast-paced lifestyles, these programs involve group activities focused on hiking, silent reflection, and guided discussions on personal challenges. A significant part of the retreat addresses emotional regulation, including anger management, meditation, and a popular technique known as “cold plunge.”
Participants often arrive during emotional crises, whether due to relationship changes, personal loss, or significant life transitions. “Many come after experiencing anxiety attacks or feelings of isolation,” states Errea. However, she emphasizes that one does not need a specific trigger to benefit from a retreat.
The Appeal of Luxury Wellness Destinations
Luxury wellness centers attract high-profile clients, often marketed as “leaders.” These retreats promise rejuvenation and balance, encompassing various treatments addressing common male fears such as hair loss or weight gain. The SHA Wellness Clinic in Alicante offers programs designed to regulate stress and improve sleep quality, with costs starting around $4,000. Their high rates of return clients highlight the enduring appeal of such wellness experiences.
Addressing Emotional Isolation
Many retreats emphasize combating emotional isolation often experienced by successful men. “You can be financially secure, but if you're emotionally detached, true happiness eludes you,” a therapist might explain. In Spain, the Loneliness Barometer reveals that 20% of men experience “unwanted loneliness,” a figure that experts suggest could be higher due to cultural barriers that discourage seeking help.
Retreats aim to create an environment where men can express vulnerability in a supportive setting. These locations often feature breathtaking natural surroundings, fostering a sense of connection and community among participants, as noted by organizers like Errea, who lead retreats in places like Casa de Indianos and AbadĂa Retuerta.
A Shift in Perspectives on Masculinity
One unique retreat, Both Sides, located in the Wiltshire forest in the UK, is designed to help men of various backgrounds “rediscover and redefine masculinity.” Co-founded by retired rugby player Anthony Mullally, the three-night sessions focus on breaking down stereotypes through mindfulness exercises.
Concerns regarding health, including hair loss and declining testosterone levels, also motivate men to attend specialized retreats. Medical professionals often oversee these programs, which include dietary management and hormonal assessments, revealing a significant lack of awareness surrounding men's hormonal health.
The Role of Gender Dynamics in Retreats
Retreat environments typically emphasize the absence of women, as their presence can evoke traditional gender role expectations. Errea notes that trust and shared vulnerability among participants are key factors in the success of these retreats, regardless of gender mix.
